If you’ve lived in Denver for more than six months, you know the drill. Your Hinge profile is filled with photos of you at Red Rocks or a brewery in LoHi. You match, you have a great conversation about skiing or local IPAs, and then… nothing. Or worse, you fall into the “situationship” trap where you’re together but not “together.”
At My Denver Therapy, we don’t just talk about dating; we talk about the neuroscience of connection. If you feel like the Denver dating scene is a revolving door of avoidant partners, there is a psychological reason for it—and a way to change your “match” settings from the inside out.
1. The “Ghosting” to “Attachment” Pipeline
Most people search for “Why did he ghost me?” but the answer lies in Attachment Theory.
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The Avoidant Island: In a city like Denver, which prizes independence and “freedom,” we have a higher-than-average population of Avoidant Attachers. They love the “newness” of a date but retreat as soon as emotional intimacy is required.
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The Anxious Wave: If you find yourself over-analyzing every text or checking their location, you might be an Anxious Attacher. You aren’t “crazy”; your nervous system is simply seeking safety in an environment (dating apps) designed for detachment.
2. Navigating the “Denver 50/50” Debate
There is a massive cultural debate in the Denver Metro area about the “50/50” relationship structure—splitting everything down the middle. For many, this isn’t just about money; it’s an attachment shield. It’s a way to keep a partner at arm’s length. We help you navigate these “Modern Dating Rules” while staying true to your need for actual security.
3. From “Situationship” to Secure Connection
How do you move past the “casual” phase in a city that loves to keep things casual?
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Define the Relationship (DTR): We teach you how to have the “DTR” conversation without triggering your own anxiety.
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Spotting “Beige Flags”: Learn to identify the subtle signs that a partner is emotionally unavailable before you’re six months deep.
If you’re burned out from the Denver dating scene, contact us today. We can help you understand yourself better and navigate the modern dating scene here in Denver.
